“The first significant step is acknowledging our child’s contributions! Allow me to guide you through this process. Initially, each parent should independently reflect – how does my child contribute to the household? Jot down this question and write down your responses! While doing this exercise independently is beneficial, it’s essential to share your insights with your partner later. This sharing could shed light on aspects you might have overlooked, unnoticed, or perhaps something the child does that you were unaware of.

In documenting these observations, avoid vague descriptions like “He is a good boy.” or “She is a sensitive girl!” These are too broad and fail to provide a clear picture of the child. Instead, detail the actual actions your child takes. Tangible deeds, no matter how minor, demonstrate how the child aids us at home. For instance, he showers on his own. She assists me with setting the table for dinner. She brushes her teeth independently. He dresses himself. She entertains herself. All these actions, even the smallest ones, are helpful.”