Episode | Class Challenges-Solving | How to Deal With Tantrums Age 2-10

Our episode today builds upon the strategies discussed in our “Power Struggles” course, focusing on understanding and effectively responding to tantrums without getting drawn into confrontation.

We’ll guide you through recognizing the child’s frustration, controlling your own emotions, and providing a sense of security and calm for your child.

• Understanding Tantrums: Tantrums are expressions of anger that occur when children feel parental boundaries challenge their independence.
• Parental Reaction: Parents often feel helpless during tantrums. It’s crucial to avoid confrontation and to manage both your anger and your child’s without excessive talking.
• Child’s Perspective: Acknowledge the child’s frustration from their viewpoint—they may perceive the situation as a significant denial of their independence.
• Avoid Giving In: Quickly yielding to a child’s demands during a tantrum can reinforce the behavior, teaching them that tantrums are a means to get what they want.
• Staying Calm: Demonstrating calmness and security is essential. Communicate that you understand and are present to support them once they have calmed down.
• Communication is Key: During peaceful moments, engage in conversations to teach your child about managing anger and discuss strategies that can help them calm down.
• Use of Role-Play: Role-playing with dolls or figures can help younger children understand and express what they need during a moment of anger.
• Individual Needs: Each child is different. Some may want a hug immediately, while others may not. It’s important to understand and respect what your child is comfortable with at that moment.
• Emotional Guidance: Children are often scared by their own outbursts and need guidance to understand that tantrums are not beneficial. Comfort them to help them calm down.
• Celebrate Progress: Acknowledge and celebrate small victories, such as a child managing to calm down more quickly over time.